Monday, June 30, 2014

GENDER TREATMENT IN RELIGION AND SPIRITUALITY: Reinstating the order

Speaking Tree link: http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritual-blogs/seekers/science-of-spirituality/gender-treatment-in-religion-and-spirituality-setting-right-the-order


Here are narrations of two short stories that occurred over the past few years which really made me explore their relevance in modern Indian context.


Story-1: Near Pune, what is today a huge IT park, were once fertile farmlands which we used to visit quite frequently with our then young children. Infact, we had built a small country home on a tiny plot of land invested in. The place was used for relaxed family weekends and gave hands-on experiences of rural life to our urban bred kids. Most families in the vicinity of our home were generations of farmers who toiled hard on their lands. Generally a lovable lot, they were easy going, religious and god-respecting. As the IT boom gathered momentum, land prices began steaming up. Most lands which were hand downs from generations were sold to IT bigwigs and eager developers. Modest farmer families and their son’s became crorepatis overnight. The daughters – most who married and settled in nearby villages - realized that they were losing out on this monetary windfall. They began demanding an equal share in the proceeds of land deals something which was legally and rightfully theirs. This infuriated the brothers who took a position of keeping it all within the ‘family’. The patriarchal family, that is. Today, unfortunately many brother-sister cases are being contested in courts. So bitter are relations that joyful occasions such as ‘bhaiyya dooj’ and ‘raksha bandhan’ are not being celebrated. 


Story-2: A decade and a half ago when we moved into the apartment where we live today, we were to perform the auspicious ‘griha pravesh’ ceremony. My wife and i, who are at peace following different religions, are liberal, practical and progressive minded blokes who care for relevance within traditions. We are equally at ease doing away with those tradition and norms which have outlived their ‘use by’ date. So, the task of finding a priest to do the puja fell upon us. We thought why not explore the possibility of breaking away from tradition and hire services of a ‘stree purohit’ (woman pandita). And so when we began our search we stumbled upon the only one then in Pune city! Unhesitatingly and delightedly we engaged her services and were among the first in this city to do so! We were greatly impressed with her efficiency, confidence, sincerity, practicality and simplicity in conducting the rituals. We didn’t believe it at first when she said that Hindu tradition permitted qualified women to perform religious rites and that the thread ceremony- which most believed and yet believe was limited to the Brahmin family’s male child – was a routine thing in the past to be performed on the girl child too. During the Mughal invasion and the long period that followed, this tradition was suspended to protect the safety of the girls. But it never got revived thereafter.


Why am i narrating these stories here?


Over centuries while almost all traditions practiced in India may have covertly or overtly tried to portray society as a patriarchal one, the fact is that women had an equal and important role to play. History has recorded numerous instances wherein Kings and Emperors of dynasties sought advice from their Ranis and Begums when it came to strategy, peacetime or wartime. Therefore, the importance of women was not only established as a social or religious order then, but today is validated legally as well, in progressive countries including India. So, how can there be a billion of us religious people and yet women be relegated to the lower social order? It just doesn’t add up.


If we were to explore this aspect from a spiritual perspective, there is not a single guru(ma) worth his/her rosary to have preached for women to take a lower social position over men. Equality and impartiality is a major teaching scripted in all traditions. Its distortion otherwise is not to be supported. As a Buddhist practitioner of the elite Vajrayana lineage, it sometimes hurts me to see monks land greater opportunities and facilities over nuns. While most reasons for this are attributable to tracing lineage purity, debates are raging within the Sangha and things are poised for change sooner than later. Indeed the XIV Dalai Lama recently expressed that he hoped his successor would be a woman, only to jokingly add that if this were indeed to happen Buddhism may see many more followers!


With the spread of Buddhism to western nations and urban centres of India, the inter-play between Buddhist masters and lay society has seen an increase. The tradition therefore is evolving quicker to greater modern relevance and responsibility. Outdated concepts ought to be and are being done away with not without reason. Indeed, this is a good thing to happen for the evolution of any religion or faith to stay relevant and meaningful, thereby attracting followers and serving society and maintaining social peace and order in a way it is supposed to.


I believe a paradigm shift is needed - no doubt in male thinking by creating gender neutral society for which families and schools are to be identified as early grooming grounds - but importantly also in the mind of the progressive, emancipated woman who ought not to meekly mumble an outdated 'let there be discrimination against me so long as there is peace at home', but a stronger and firmer voice arising from self-belief which questions 'how can there be peace at home if I am discriminated against?'


In summation, although some regressive segments and primitive mindsets find it convenient to project society as a patriarchal one, in reality and traditionally it has always been one where the woman has stood at par; at times higher in the social and familial order and importance but never less. With gender discrimination fast losing relevance, the time-tested social order must be practiced with greater responsibility today in a society which has moved on to respect the importance of brain over brawn. This also means that the woman in the family asserts herself and claws her way back to a status of equality which was temporarily snatched away from her, but which was always hers.



Friday, May 16, 2014

Transform Poisons into Nectar

(http://www.speakingtree.in/public/spiritual-blogs/seekers/self-improvement/transform-poisons-into-nectar) The meaningful jehad within!


Back from a profound month long Dzogchen (Great Perfection) retreat at Namdroling Monastery, i was recently invited to the engagement ceremony of the daughter of my friend from several years. Although i very rarely make it to prolonged social events, this one was an unavoidable. While the ceremonial proceedings were on, well attired guests mingled. The conversation, after initial pleasantries, naturally turned to casual talk. It surprised me to hear that the common thread in almost all topics of discussion was name, fame, power and money! After sometime, i retired to a corner with an old acquaintance and the evening was saved!


Name.Fame.Power.Money.


I call them the ‘Four Mirages’. Any and every action each one of does all throughout our life, we do so to keep us happy. The same is for all sentient beings, animals, insects, birds, worms, sea creatures. All beings want to be happy all the time. Some of us realize that life is not about accumulation of material things but there are higher aspirations of developing as human beings to be met too. Therefore, instead of making piecemeal attempts at being temporarily happy by pleasing our sensory organs and ego state - which can be compared to licking honey off the edge of a sword – we must find a reliable way to seamless and lasting peace and happiness. Due to their transient nature the Four Mirages really offer no help here, and are therefore unreliable.


A desert offers all kinds of mirages which only a trained traveller can distinguish from the real thing. Much the same it is with the Four Mirages that keep emerging from within which need to be first neutralized and then transformed to play a positive role in our life thereby improving the quality of inner life we so wish to live all the time. The mirages do little else than fuel the ego state – a label we give an illusory, non-existent state and get fixated towards that label - and in this process instead of realizing our true nature, they only help in burying it further under a facade of delusions. The ego has its own insecurites and it’s job is indeed to keep us occupied with pampering such delusions and in the process forgetting about it (ego). The very essence of our spiritual practice is to create chaos in the well-designed and systematic set up of ego. For this, it is essential to understand and realize the real nature of our mind which is bereft of ego, aversion, desire, envy, ignorance; the Five Poisons. They are mere cladding that we have ‘beautifully’ managed to construct around our pristine buddha nature. What this really reveals is that we are already primordially enlightened beings! The spiritual journey we have undertaken is to merely re-discover or uncover this pure state buried under what we have nurtured it to be. It is the frequent arising of these negative mind states which transformation into body and speech actions (karma) that have been the cause for our re-cycling in samsara and having to endure the four great rivers of suffering (birth, old age, sickness and death). If cause is addressed, the result will change too. The cause here is the way we think. Nagarjuna says: “Samsara is mere thought; if we’re free of that, we’re perfectly free.”


If we must nurture the poisons, especially the dominant one’s, it should be in a way where the result is positive inner transformation, making us a better person. This is the Mahayana path. For example, we can be mean or use anger against our sloth and lethargy towards our study and practice; we could take humble pride in the progress we have been able to make on the path towards self-improvement; one could develop desire towards nurturing a mind of enlightenment; we could be envious of the fact that each one of us is a primordially pure buddha and in comparison what we have reduced ourselves to in our present state; show ignorance towards others mocking at our diligent and sincere practice. Indeed, one must be careful in doing so without these negative mental states either manifesting externally nor clinging internally. Eitherway, it would be counter-productive on the path of liberation. We can transform all types of conditions into the path into nectar by being honest with ourselves and compassionate with others. Even if we can let go some of our old habits and habitual hang-ups we can rejoice that Dharma is entering our mind stream.


Never lose gained ground, Sanghamitras!

Saturday, February 1, 2014

GRASPING NATURE OF MIND: The Duality Conundrum

http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritual-blogs/seekers/self-improvement/grasping-nature-of-mind-the-duality-conundrum


During teachings, Buddhist masters always talk of two of our deadliest enemies; those of grasping (subject) and the grasped (object). These two have been identified as the very causes for keeping us tied to the life-death cycle since beginningless time. Unless we find a reliable and effective way to overcome them, it would be impossible to get out of the complicated labyrinths of samsara.


The mind’s natural tendency is to constantly grasp at objects inside and outside of it and react to them either with aversion or desire. This becomes an addictive process and we seem to get hooked on to it. Worse, it becomes such an ingrained habit that it seems as though we have been born naturally programmed to do so! But, this is so not true. Nothing really exists unless and until the mind establishes its existence. A flower is not a flower until the mind perceives it as one. And so on. There is nothing that we perceive which does not arise in the mind. This perception occurs through our sense bases. From these sense bases we have general knowledge or awareness of objects. Mind, therefore, is awareness. The problem arises when once a perception is made, we tend to further build on this perception and react with either aversion or attachment or through ignorance. This reaction could be either from our conceptual mind or the emotional mind. These three are Relative states of our mind.


Example: We see a flower. Perception establishes it as a flower. Conceptual mind describes the flower (colour, size, shape, smell etc). Finally, the Emotional mind concludes ‘i like it’ or ‘i don’t like it’ or ‘i somewhat like it’.


And so on it goes. Every moment this chattering, restless mind is perceiving and conceptualizing. It incessantly hunts for objects, either outer or inner, one after the other in order to entertain itself. In this process of continuous hunting and feeding itself on objects, it feels as though it is achieving peace and rest. However, this is only an assumption. Instead, in doing so it continually remains disturbed, dissatisfied and frustrated. It leaves itself thirsting for more. It is much like drinking salted water; instead of quenching thirst it creates more.


It is the ego’s job (ego is a product of conceptualized mind) job to keep us busy in this way all the while and in the process ego hides itself. When we do absolutely nothing, as in shamatha meditation, ego’s true colour stands exposed and we are able to get a glimpse of our Absolute mind. This is our true nature. This is our basic human goodness. This gap allows us for some space between thoughts and emotions. This ‘gap’ makes us feel somewhat lonely and we as practitioners ought to really enjoy this loneliness!


Through wisdom and experience gained from meditation we come to know that after the first mistake of perceiving objects to be separate and outside of mind, through the constant process of perception and conception, the second mistake we make is trying to ‘connect’ the mind with perceived objects. Moreover, after making this ‘connection’ we react from the states of aversion or attachment and create negative karma. This leads us astray and is the fundamental cause of remaining in samsara.


The moment we realise that subjects and objects are nothing else but one's own mind, we will stop chasing its own projection. True relaxation and rest dawns and we begin to taste freedom and bliss keeping frustrations and restlessness at bay. Perceiving objects through pure and unconceptualized awareness is what Tibetan Buddhism defines as View; the essence of our practice. View is introduced directly to the student by the master. To make this View an unbroken experience is Meditation. Meditation helps in stabilizing View. Our discipline and diligent practice explains Buddha nature and its realization. And finally, practicing View and Meditation simultaneously moment by moment in daily life situations is Action or Fruition. This approach helps our transformation from ‘can’t do’ to ‘can do’.


Rejoice in your practice, diligent Shramanas!

INTERDEPENDENT ORIGINATION (Emptiness or Shoonyata)

Speaking Tree Paper, 29.12.2013


Lord Buddha said: YE DHARMA HETU PRABHAVA HETUN TASHAN TATHAGATO HYA VADATA TESHANTYO NIRODH EVAM VADI MAHA SHRAMANAYE SVAHA


{All phenomena arise from causes.
The causes are being taught by the Tathagatha.
The cessation to causes
Are also being taught by the great Shramanera (practitioner)!}


Here all phenomena refers to conditioned phenomena or compounded phenomena. All of them arise from causes and conditions. Suffering arises from cause and conditions. Happiness also arise from cause and conditions. The first line shows Truth of Suffering. Suffering refers to physical pain as well as mental suffering. In a wide way, suffering refers not only to physical and mental pain, but also the external world that helps to create suffering.


The second line indicates the Truth of the Cause of Suffering. The cause refers to karma and negative emotions. These two are causes of suffering in samsara. Karma refers to intent in the mind and the actions of body and speech which are triggered by the thoughts. Negative emotions refer to disturbing thoughts that destroys the peace of mind like attachment, anger and ignorance. Negative emotions pollute thought patterns that produce negative actions of body, speech and mind. They in turn are causes of future sufferings in samsara.


The third line shows the Truth of the Cessation to Suffering and the fourth line the Truth of the Path to Cessation. Cessation of suffering is the end of Karma and negative emotions. Once one completely gets rid of negative emotions, the root causes of Karma, one achieves cessation or liberation from samsara.


Truth of the path shows the noble eightfold path (Right View, Right thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration) which leads to the cessation or liberation.


This mantra of the Essence of Interdependent Origination is very popular in all traditions of Buddhism. This is called interdependent because all phenomena especially the conditioned ones originate from cause and conditions. This verse also shows the essence of Buddhism as indirectly it shows that if you do good, good things come about and if you do bad,bad will come about.


[ Teachings received from Khenpo Sonam Tsewang, Namdroling Monastery, Bylakuppe, Karnataka]